Today, I’m thankful for two understandings:
- If someone is upset about something and I’m not, I don’t have to force myself to be upset about it also. No need to wallow with people if they feel they must.
- If someone is not upset about something and I am, I don’t have to force myself to let it go before I’m ready. I just need to make sure that being upset is actually serving me and not causing me to wallow in negativity.
Easy part: understanding these.
Hard part: executing these.
Do you struggle with these?
How do you get around them?
What ways do you set up reminders or permissions in the moment?
How do these understandings help?
Hurt?
What is it like for you when you choose not to wallow with someone?
What is it like for THEM when you choose not to wallow with someone?
What is it like when someone chooses not to wallow with YOU?
What value is there in allowing yourself to be upset about something?
How often have you let others dictate your feelings for you?
Do they know?
Have you ever had someone dictate your feelings to you through manipulation?
Do they know?
What questions do you ask yourself to help process through these?
